Last week, I looked up the phrase “Neurodivergent.” I’ve started seeing this term used on social media and felt the need to become more informed. Having never come across this phrase during my clinical Social Work studies, I was surprised to learn that it was coined in 1998 and refers to people whose brains develop or work differently. As a nonmedical term, its accuracy is broad and is applied to a wide range of disorders such as Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia and Dyspraxia.

As a child, I was diagnosed with ADHD, but went untreated. My mother, a nurse and armchair psychologist, did not believe in neurobehavioral disorders. Her opinion was that my actions and reactions were all conscious and therefore controllable. I knew that there was a reason I couldn’t pay attention or sit still, but I was a kid and couldn’t put it into words. Since I couldn’t explain it, I was always in trouble.

By the time I became an adult, I was sure of two things. (1) I thought different from all the other normal kids; and (2) I needed to learn psychology to figure out what was going on in my head to help others. I knew I wasn’t alone, I just needed to figure out the meaning of the mind and behavior.

Had someone explained to the mother of that blind neurodivergent child the reasons for the behavior, she might have got it. She might have let me get the help I needed. I probably wouldn’t have had to work four times as hard as the other kids just to get by.

No resolutions

This year, I resolve to make no resolutions. This will be a new year and I will make the best of it in whatever ways present themselves. The idea of making promises to improve just because it’s a new year doesn’t work because, if you don’t’ see an immediate payoff, you lose your determination. Resolving to do better and to take advantage of whatever comes your way is better as it’s open to anything and everything being a success. Resolving to have no resolution, in this case, is in a way saying I’m freeing myself to be my personal best.

Podcasting Thoughts

When I was a podcaster, I did it for fun. I wasn’t about making money, changing people’s opinions, or even building an audience. If I wasn’t having fun it wasn’t worth doing. Today, as a listener, it seems like the hosts are all about making money with their sub-par performances.

One of my favorite shows is all about the merchandise. During an hour-and-a-half program there are at least 4 ad spots, and each is either him shilling for some corporation or hawking his own branded crap. Yes, I know he does the show to pay his bills, but if I hear one more Geico commercial, “DO you own… Do you rent,” I might just unsubscribe.

Maybe I should get back into the game. I’ve tried a few times, but life just keeps getting in the way. I know I’m good and could keep the party going. I just don’t know where I will find the time.

Internet Nutrality

I really wish someone could, in all seriousness, give me the TL-DR summary on why a data cap from my ISP is necessary. Everything I’ve read about the subject from a US perspective just says caps are needed in order to provide “fair”, tiered services at different price points based on speed and usage. Meaning, they want a reason to make us pay more for the privilege of watching Hulu and Netflix.

Yes, I get it. I was born in the era when the internet wasn’t found in most homes, and the infrastructure to use it, when you could, had to be over a telephone line. I have memories of trying to download songs and pictures and having to start over because the call waiting bleep interrupted my download. I even, remember the first taste of high-speed internet I had in college when I could download an entire album in 5 minutes. Oh, the joys!

But that was 20 years ago. 2021 has a high-speed net capable device in every pocket, a smart TV in every home, and 80-year-old grandmothers asking their children how to post selfies on Instagram.

You would think that during this time of technological advancement, big communication would get its act together and say, “Let’s just open the pipes up for everyone and charge for specialized internet services.” But no, the monied powers feel that its their right to milk every drop of our Triply taxed incomes out of our pockets because they want to offer tiered access to what has become a public utility.

I’m not smart enough to know the answer. I just know that there’s a slippery slope going on and that if we’re not careful, we’ll end up like a few communist countries I could name.

Another Shutdown

Due to the COVID-19 increase, health officials are telling all of us to return to our semi-lockdown life. Personally, I never left it. I have been locked down for exactly eight months. And that time has been eight months of pure hell.

Due to my health, I am considered high risk. I have high blood pressure, diabetes, and according to my friends the “immune system of a toddler.” Any doctor that looks at me wants to put me on so many pills, even Michael Jackson’s physician is saying ‘God… Enough is enough.” And yet, I have stayed healthy.

So, while the new world order government is restricting the freedoms of those who felt safe enough to go back into their shells, I’m just sitting over here chilling. Yes, I have gone out twice in the past week to see my family, but the group has been spread out and there has only been seven of us in the house.

I plan to see the rest of my family at thanksgiving. The group will also be no more than 10 strong, and the house is huge, so distance is a non-issue. Besides, this group will include my mother and I haven’t seen her in nearly a year.

That’s my update, for what its worth. I hope you folks who start to go nuts again, take care of yourselves. Practice distancing, and please use all the tools we have in 2020 to reach out and stay social.


Old Time Taxi

When I lived down town RVA, I used taxis as a primary way to get to work. Over that time I got to be good friends with the drivers and the biggest bummer was losing that connection when I moved out into the county.

Today, I used Lyft to vote and my driver was one of my favorite taxi drivers. She was always friendly and today was no exception. Even though we hadn’t seen each other in nearly four years, she knew me and handled that right like a champ. And you know I tipped well.

Mercury retrograde

I’ve just heard that Mercury retrograde starts today and ends on November 3, and that gives me zero comfort. The event, which has long been associated with professional, financial, and logistical chaos in astrology circles, is blamed for everything from missed flights and crashed computers to workplace tensions and broken household appliances. As my life is already a prime example of a cluster-F, the next few weeks is likely to be a misery.

Quarantine Musings

During this pandemic quarantine I have had a lot of time to think. Some of my thoughts have been dark and not worthy of sharing with the world, but some are pretty funny. The hard part for me was getting them together in a list.
One of my friends posted a list and damned if they aren’t everything I’ve been thinking. So I present, the stolen list. And no I don’t feel bad about sharing it as she stole it herself.
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What’s In a Name

Names have power. They help define you as a person, unlock doors in social situations, and give insight into your personal history. The choice of a name should not be taken lightly, as the child must cope with it all through their life, unless they take the time and money to legally change it. So, if you name your child Phineas Howell-Rockefeller Jones, please don’t’ be shocked if people ask you about why you chose something so hoity-toity. Especially if your best friends call you “Punkie”.
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